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Here’s the thing. Men in our culture have been socialized to believe that their opinions on women’s appearance matter a lot. Not all men buy into this, of course, but many do. Some seem incapable of entertaining the notion that not everything women do with their appearance is for men to look at. This is why men’s response to women discussing stifling beauty norms is so often something like “But I actually like small boobs!” and “But I actually like my women on the heavier side, if you know what I mean!” They don’t realize that their individual opinion on women’s appearance doesn’t matter in this context, and that while it might be reassuring for some women to know that there are indeed men who find them fuckable, that’s not the point of the discussion.

Women, too, have been socialized to believe that the ultimate arbiters of their appearance are men, that anything they do with their appearance is or should be “for men.” That’s why women’s magazines trip over themselves to offer up advice on “what he wants to see you wearing” and “what men think of these current fashion trends” and “wow him with these new hairstyles.” While women can and do judge each other’s appearance harshly, many of us grew up being told by mothers, sisters, and female strangers that we’ll never “get a man” or “keep a man” unless we do X or lose some fat from Y, unless we moisturize//trim/shave/pushup/hide/show/”flatter”/paint/dye/exfoliate/pierce/surgically alter this or that.

That’s also why when a woman wears revealing clothes, it’s okay, in our society, to assume that she’s “looking for attention” or that she’s a slut and wants to sleep with a bunch of guys. Because why else would a woman wear revealing clothes if not for the benefit of men and to communicate her sexual availability to them, right? It can’t possibly have anything to do with the fact that it’s hot out or it’s more comfortable or she likes how she looks in it or everything else is in the laundry or she wants to get a tan or maybe she likes women and wants attention from them, not from men?

The result of all this is that many men, even kind and well-meaning men, believe, however subconsciously, that women’s bodies are for them. They are for them to look at, for them to pass judgment on, for them to bless with a compliment if they deign to do so. They are not for women to enjoy, take pride in, love, accept, explore, show off, or hide as they please. They are for men and their pleasure.

accioguitardis:

cyberunfamous:

trillow:

how much do islands cost i want one

Less than a college education

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what the fuck

YO IT’S LESS THAN A YEARS WORTH OF (YOUR) TUITION!

agentotter:

I think end credits are Marvel’s way of weeding out the weak. You see them get up to leave the second the credits start and you’re like, “Yes, go, you are clearly unworthy.”

omg so truemy friend tried to leavebefore the first creditsand then again before the second creditsi was like naw mansityo ass down

ndnm:

vitalemontea:

just tried doing my taxes. it’s definitely a two extra strength gel cap advil problem. even with the help of google senpai and the entire cra department's website, i felt like anderson. that is, a fumbling fool mucking around :’( 

Y U NO MAKE SENSE!? O M F G TIS A CONSPIRACY 

oh my fuck do not even 

k so my tax return is like $5xx when I enter my paycheques from work, right? and then. when i enter my tuition fees for SOME STUPID-ASS REASON IT BOOM DROPS TO $1xx like EXCUSE ME I AM A STUDENT I AM POOR WHY DO I HAVE TO PAY MORE TAXES THIS DOES NOT MAKE SENSE 

YES OMG IDEK WHY IT DOES THAT. LIKE WTFH. GODDAMMIT GOVERNMENT. I AM ALREADY EATING RAMEN, DO YOU WANT TO TAKE AWAY MY CARDBOARD BOX TOO!?